ONLINE Conflict Coaching & Mediation Program (6 Months - 1 Year)

with John Kinyon

4-Week Pre Pilot



thursdays, starting on 3/7/19 for 4 weeks



I (John) am offering a 4-week “Pre-Pilot” of the Online Conflict Coaching & Mediation Program. This Pre-Pilot starts on Thursday March 7 and go through March 28, 12-1:30pm Pacific Time. I am inviting people to do this Pre-Pilot who I feel a closer connection with and who I believe can help me develop the program.

I envision this Pre-Pilot phase as a time for me to try out various ways I have in mind to deliver the content of the program, and for those in the Pre-Pilot to co-create with me how this takes shape. I plan to start a 6 month Pilot on April 25 and go through November 7, keeping the day and time as Thursdays, 12-1:30pm Pacific for the live calls. For the 6 month Pilot, I will invite a lager circle of people I know who are interested and engaged in this work, to continue to evolve and fine tune the program. I hope those in the Pre-Pilot will continue into the Pilot.

My plan for the whole program is that it will be offered in two 6-month phases: Phase I (learning and practice), and Phase II (support for working with actual clients). There will be weekly 1.5 hour live sessions on Zoom or a similar video conferencing system. I’m currently planning that all the live sessions will be on Thursdays, 12-1:30pm Pacific Time. See below how I am currently envisioning the program.

Prerequisite: The online program is designed for people who have attended one year or more of the Mediate Your Life program, including regular practice with self and others between intensives, or have been practicing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for at least one year.

The Online Program
The online program is for people who want to develop their empathic communication distinctions, skills and abilities to offer conflict coaching to individuals and to mediate conflicts and difficult conversations between people. In this online training, participants learn and practice with the Mediate Your Life (MYL) approach, based in the work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), including a deepening emphasis on mindfulness and nondual consciousness. I see mediation as an aspect of coaching. When I mediate, I am actually coaching in NVC/MYL distinctions, skills, and maps. So, this is a conflict coaching program that includes mediation. The program would also support people in leading practice groups or in any other ways of supporting people's learning and responding to challenging situations. 

The live sessions will primarily focus on demonstration and role play practice, with me coaching participants as they practice how to coach and mediate with others. We’ll also pause the role playing often to harvest and learn together as a group from what has been happening. There will be some time at the beginning and the end of the sessions for people to share how they are learning, integrating, and in inquiry with the learning and practice happening outside of the weekly live sessions. I will provide an outline of topics, which can be adjusted based on group feedback and requests.

The training will provide in-depth experiential learning and practice using the Mediate Your Life processes, or "maps," for conflict coaching and mediation. There will be learning resources (written, audio, video), peer practice, connection, and support. In addition to how I integrate mindfulness and nondual consciousness into my work, I also plan to bring in the importance for me of empathic community-building and engaging at the social-political level. The program will be facilitated in a co-creative and mutual learning way. It will support people to explore how these dimensions resonate in their own experience and fit within their unique expression of how they see their work evolving. My larger vision is that empathic communication skills, practices, and community are recognized in the cultural mainstream as an integral part of health and wellness, and part of humanity's evolution toward responding together to the challenges we face and creating a healthy and sustainable world.

The MYL processes, or maps, for individual coaching include: Internal Mediation, Self-Forgiveness (Chooser-Educator), Preparing for Difficult Conversations (Enemy Image Process), Practicing Difficult Conversations (Intensity Exercise), Requests/Agreements, Need Behind the No, Interpersonal Mediation, 3Chairs Process for Difficult Conversations, Debriefing for Resilience (Mourn Celebrate Learn), and the Healing & Reconciliation process for making amends and healing role play.

The training also offers deep learning and practice in the 5-step Mediation Model and 9 mediation skills, developed over many years in the Mediate Your Life program. Practicing in the role of mediator, you dial up and down the difficulty/intensity level in role play practice to customize your learning experience in a safe, supportive learning environment. To maximize learning and growth, you rotate through the roles of mediator and disputants, give and receive supportive peer feedback, and receive in-the-moment coaching. The training will also offer the Healing & Reconciliation map for mediating conflicts based in emotional hurt, as well as maps for pre- and post-mediation with clients and mediator self-care. 

You will be able to dial up and down the difficulty level to customize your learning, and maximize your growth by playing the roles of both coach and client, give and receive supportive peer feedback, and receive in-the-moment coaching. 


Philosophy of Money
The pricing below is what I (John) would like to receive to support this work and my sustainability. However, because I see this work being for the greater good of humanity and all people and communities, and because I want to support a monetary system based in giving and receiving from the meaning and enjoyment of contributing to one another's well being, you are free to give what feels right to you. My request is that you stretch yourself to give as much as you're willing and able to give. Not only will this support me and this work, I believe it will support you to receive the most benefit and value from doing the work. If you would like to give an amount different from what is listed below, email:, or call me at (415) 710-2777. Thank you for wanting to be part of this work in the world! 

Requested Tuition Pricing (for the 6 month program)

  • $300 per month

*** This being a“Pre-Pilot” phase, please give whatever feels good and right to you to give. I will be happy and grateful to have your presence and co-creativity! ***

TO REGISTER send me an email letting me know you’d like to do it,

TO GIVE TUITION, click on this link to PayPal. If you don’t have a PayPal account, you can easily create one and link it to a checking account or credit card. Use my email address to make a payment. In the Note section, please put that you’re registering for the online coaching program, your name, email, and phone number.

FOR QUESTIONS email me at, or call (415) 710-2777.