Monthly Free Online MYL Community Practice Sessions with John.
NEXT SESSION IS JUNE 7, 2019.
First Fridays of the month (unless otherwise posted), 12-1pm Pacific. This online practice session is for people who have participated in the Mediate Your Life (MYL) training program. It is an opportunity to connect or re-connect with this community for sharing, practice, and support. If you are new to this work and interested in checking it out, you are welcome to observe and ask questions. The sessions include: sharing of celebrations and challenges using the skills and maps, Q&A, demonstrations, and practice. The meetings happen through Zoom video conferencing system. To join the practice session, click on this link: https://zoom.us/j/468797381. You can join by computer or call in by phone (US: +1 646 876 9923 or +1 669 900 6833 or +1 408 638 0968. Meeting ID: 468 797 381. International numbers available: https://zoom.us/zoomconference). For information help about Zoom and how to use it, click here.
Free introductory webinar with John
Next one TBD, coming soon
In this one hour introductory webinar, John will demonstrate his approach to the skills and practices of empathic communication and talk about his Mediate Your Life training program for building empathic community and culture in our lives and organizations. Click the button below for more information and to register.
BOOKS BY JOHN KINYON AND IKE LASATER
Choosing Peace: New Ways to Communicate to Reduce Stress, Create Connection, and Resolve Conflict. Volume 1 in the Mediate Your Life series. Published 2014.
From Conflict to Connection: Transforming Difficult Conversations into Peaceful Resolutions. Volume 2 in the Mediate Your Life series. Published 2015.
When Your Mind Sabotages Your Dreams: Turning Your Critical Internal Voices into Collaborative Allies. Volume 3 in the Mediate Your Life series. Published 2017.
Words That Work in Business, by Ike Lasater
mediate Your life HANDOUTS
OFNR Distinctions [Click to Open]
Choosing Peace OFNR Practices [Click to Open]
Feelings & Needs Sheet [Click to Open]
Feelings vs. "Faux Feelings" Sheet [Click to Open]
Self-Connection Practice (SCP) [Click to Open]
Elements of Empathy [Click to Open]
3Chairs Process for Difficult Conversations [Click to Open]
Intensity Exercise, partner practice [Click to Open]
Interpersonal Mediation (IPM) process [Click to Open]
Solution Requests and Need Behind the No (NBN) process [Click to Open]
Enemy Image Process (EIP) [Click to Open]
Mourn Celebrate Learn (MCL) process [Click to Open]
Click here to link to more handouts on the www.mediateyourlife.com website
LEARNING VIDEOS/AUDIOs with john
Self-Empathy with OFNR
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Need vs. Strategy_video
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Request vs. Demand_video
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Practice Group Videos with John and Ike
Watch John and Ike present and demonstrate the "maps" of the Mediate Your Life approach to use for yourself and also for leading a practice group. Click here to link to this Resource page on the www.mediateyourlife.com website.
recommended Meditation Apps
The Waking Up Course, mindfulness and nonduality meditation app by Sam Harris
Insight Timer guided meditations (I particularly like Stephen Procter)
nvc learning opportunities in the SF Bay ARea
Mediate Your Life program with John Kinyon
Communication Dojo with Newt Bailey
Bay Area NVC (BayNVC) consisting of a number of diverse collaborative trainers, who offer a wide variety of content areas, ranging from work in prisons to community to organizations and mindfulness.
Other NVC Books, Recordings, Websites
Training videos of NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg. See also videos on YouTube.
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. By Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. Marshall is the creator of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC).
Nonviolent Communication Training Course. 9 Audio CDs and Workbook Kit by Marshall Rosenberg.
We Can Work It Out. Booklet by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. on NVC Mediation.
Getting Past the Pain Between Us. Booklet by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D on the Healing and Reconciliation Process.
The Surprising Purpose of Anger. Booklet by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.
Speak Peace in a World of Conflict. Book by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.
Practical Spirituality. Booklet by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. on the spiritual basis of NVC.
Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain's Capacity for Healing. By Sarah Peyton. Interpersonal neurobiology and healing traumatic experiences from an NVC perspective. See also the related work of Susan Skye.
PuddleDancer Press. Nonviolent Communication books and resources.
NVC Academy Multimedia Library. Recordings of John Kinyon and many other trainers of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) from around the world.
Larry Rosen TED video, The Secret to Understanding Humans [On universal needs]
BE PART OF AN EMPATHIC COMMUNITY OF LEARNING, SUPPORT, AND PRACTICE
Check to see if there are NVC practice groups or empathy circles near you.
The Ongo Book, by Catherine Cadden & Jessie Wiens. Start your own group with the help of this wonderful book!
NVC Mediation Weekly Practice Group, led by Jan Blum. Wednesdays 5pm Eastern, USA. Email Jan for more info: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Recommended Complimentary Bodies of Work
Consciousness and Nonduality
Sam Harris and The Waking Up Course, mindfulness and nonduality meditation app by Sam. Also, see Sam’s book Waking Up.
Rupert Spira. Nonduality spiritual teacher. Tremendous clarity on understanding and practicing nonduality. See YouTube videos.
Eckhart Tolle. Spiritual teacher. Books: A New Earth, Stillness Speaks, The Power of Now. See YouTube videos.
David Whyte. Poet, author, speaker. The conversational nature of reality. Poetry and organizations. Authenticity, compassion and courageous conversations. I particularly recommend listening to David's talks.
Byron Katie and The Work. Spiritual teacher. A Mind At Home with Itself, is her newest book.
Three Principles — consciousness, mind, thought. Originated by Scottish welder turned spiritual teacher Sydney Banks. See also YouTube videos.
On Having No Head, book by Douglas Harding. See also The Headless Way website.
Sarah Peyton, book, Your Resonant Self. NVC, truma, and interpersonal neurobiology. See Sarah’s website for guided meditations and other learning material.
Peter Levine, pioneer in the trauma field. Developed body of work called Somatic Experiencing.
Dan Siegal, interpersonal neurobiology, neuroscience, trauma, consciousness.
Gabor Mate. Trauma and addiction.
Richard Schwartz and Internal Family Systems (IFS), book, Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts.
Mark Epstein, book The Trauma of Everyday Life.
Stephen Porges. Relationship between the autonomic nervous system, social-emotional processes, and nonverbal communication; neural regulation.
Russel Brand, book Recovery: Freedom From Addiction.
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. By Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
The Neuroscience of Change: A Compassion-Based Program for Personal Transformation. By Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. Sounds True Recordings.
Sam Harris website, podcast, books. Known for his provocative stance on atheism and religion, and for his hugely poplar and acclaimed Making Sense podcast at the intersection of politics, society and culture, science and neuroscience, and mindfulness.
Jordan Peterson website, podcast, books. Jordan is a psychologist who’s become one of the most popular speakers internationally on the intersection of psychology, society and culture, science, and religion/spirituality.
Yuval Noah Harari, historian and anthropologist, has also become one of the most well known writers and speakers internationally on the intersection of society and culture, science, and religion.
Jack Kornfield. Buddhism and the heart of compassion.
Tara Brach. Radical Acceptance.
Pema Chodron. Buddhism and responding to life's biggest challenges.
Integral Philosophy, Evolutionary Spirituality, Consciousness, Culture, Politics. There of course is integral philosophy pioneer Ken Wilber, Integral Life. I also particularly like Steve McIntosh who is a leader in this movement.
Brene Brown, Ph.D. Researcher, author, speaker on shame, vulnerability, and authenticity. One of the best TED talks ever!
Emotional Intelligence and organizational leadership— Daniel Goleman
Reinventing Organizations, by Frederic Laloux
Awakening Compassion at Work, book by Monica Worline and Jane Dutton
Search Inside Yourself, book by Chade-Meng Tan. Emotional intelligence, neuroscience, and meditation/mindfulness, particularly applied to organizational and work settings.
Speaking Circles International, Lee Glickstein. Public speaking in the art of relational presence.
Simon Sinek. Speaker, author. Gave one of the most viewed TED talks ever.
Johann Hari video, Depression and Anxiety in the Workplace [A needs-based understanding]
Simon Sinek TED video, Why Good Leaders Make You Feel Safe [Simon's book, Leaders East Last]
David Whyte TED video, The Conversational Nature of Reality [Poetry and Organizational Leadership]
Frederic Laloux video series, Insights for the Journey, Reinventing Organizations [On new paradigm organizational functioning]
recommended PODCASTS and websites
Greater Good Science Center. A wonderful resource for science-based information on positive psychology, mindfulness, compassion, emotional and social intelligence, etc.
On Being, with Krista Tippett
Sounds True, Tami Simon. The world’s largest living library of transformational teachings that support and accelerate spiritual awakening and personal transformation.
Bring Your Whole Self to Work — Mike Robbins [particularly episodes May 8-June 12, 2018]
Mindful.org. Website and online magazine dedicated to all things mindfulness. Great information and resources.
Happy Wanderers podcast. Mindfulness and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).