Coaching Resources


books by John Kinyon and Ike Lasater


OFNR Distinctions [Click to Open]
Choosing Peace OFNR Practices [Click to Open]
Feelings & Needs Sheet [Click to Open]
Feelings vs. "Faux Feelings" Sheet [Click to Open]
Self-Connection Practice (SCP) [Click to Open]
Elements of Empathy [Click to Open]
3Chairs Process for Difficult Conversations [Click to Open]
Intensity Exercise, partner practice [Click to Open]
Interpersonal Mediation (IPM) process [Click to Open]
Solution Requests and Need Behind the No (NBN) process [Click to Open]
Enemy Image Process (EIP) [Click to Open]
Mourn Celebrate Learn (MCL) process [Click to Open]
Click here to link to more handouts on the website

Empathy Cards
Empathy Set Flash Cards for Developing EQ [Click for info and to order]

John's Learning Videos (and audio)

Introduction to Empathic Communication_Video
Introduction to Empathic Communication_Audio

Self-Empathy with OFNR
Observation vs. Evaluation_video
Observation vs. Evaluation_audio
Feeling vs. Thinking_video
Feeling vs. Thinking_audio
Need vs. Strategy_video
Need vs. Strategy_audio
Request vs. Demand_video
Request vs. Demand_audio

Self-Connection Practice/OFNR Mindfulness (Breath, Body, Need)

Meditation Apps
- Waking Up Course, Sam Harris
- Headspace
- 10% Happier
- Calm
- Simple Habit

Practice Group Videos with John and Ike
Watch John and Ike present and demonstrate the "maps" of the Mediate Your Life approach to use for yourself and also for leading a practice group. Click here to link to this Resource page on the website.

related videos by others

Larry Rosen TED video, The Secret to Understanding Humans [On universal needs]
Johann Hari video, Depression and Anxiety in the Workplace [A needs-based understanding]
Simon Sinek TED video, Why Good Leaders Make You Feel Safe [Simon's book, Leaders East Last]
David Whyte TED video, The Conversational Nature of Reality [Poetry and Organizational Leadership]
Frederic Laloux video series, Insights for the Journey, Reinventing Organizations [On new paradigm organizational functioning]


Research on Highly Effective Teams at Google
Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella asks top executives to read Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication
When CEO Satya Nadella took over Microsoft, he started diffusing its toxic culture by handing his execs a 15-year-old book by a psychologist


Reinventing Organizations, by Frederic Laloux
Bring Your Whole Self to Work, by Mike Robbins
Awakening Compassion at Work, by Monica Worline and Jane Dutton
Search Inside Yourself, by Chade-Meng Tan


Emotional Intelligence — Daniel Goleman
Poetry and Conversational Leadership in Organizations — David Whyte


Bring Your Whole Self to Work — Mike Robbins [particularly episodes May 8-June 12, 2018]
The Tim Ferriss Show
The Tony Robbins Podcast
The Marie Forleo Podcast
The Good Life Project

For more resources click here.