About John Kinyon

John has co-developed the international Mediate Your Life (MYL) training program over the past 15 years. He works with organizations and individuals to support the development of empathic culture and community through learning skills, structures and systems of empathic communication. He provides training, coaching, and facilitation/mediation, and is a speaker and author. The Mediate Your Life program is offered in different parts of the U.S. and in Asia, Europe, and Australia. The MYL approach integrates the international work of Compassionate Communication (Nonviolent Communication/NVC) with mindfulness and a mediation framework, and is grounded in neuroscience.

For over two decades John has mediated conflicts in a wide range of contexts, including families, businesses, and organizations.

He is co-author of the books:









John is co-creator with colleague Ike Lasater of the international Mediate Your Life training program. This training integrates Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with a mediation framework, mindfulness, and insights from neuroscience and habit change research.

In 2002, following a harrowing journey and adventure together to the Northwest Frontier Province area of Pakistan to work with Afghan tribal elders, John and Ike began a partnership that led to co-founding the Mediate Your Life training company and developing a body of work that has grown into public workshops and year-long training programs around the United States and internationally in Europe, Asia, and Australia since 2007. 

John was mentored by NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg and worked closely with him for over a decade. John has been a certified trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2000, and a leader in the world-wide NVC community. 


John received his undergraduate degree from the University of San Francisco, where he studied psychology and philosophy (and played for USF’s nationally ranked soccer team). He went on to graduate training in clinical psychology at Penn State University. During his five years of doctoral study, he worked as a psychotherapist with individuals and groups, and as a research assistant at the Stress and Anxiety Disorders Institute. After graduate school, John helped launch and develop a small commercial business before discovering Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In 2000, he embraced full-time communication and conflict resolution work, and in 2002 co-founded the Bay Area NVC organization (BayNVC). John lives with his wife and children in the San Francisco Bay Area.