About John Kinyon

John is co-creator of the Mediate Your Life (MYL) training program that is offered in different parts of the U.S. and in Asia, Europe, and Australia since 2003, including conflict management training in organizations. The MYL approach is based in the international work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and integrates a mediation framework, mindfulness/awareness, and neuroscience. The training provides skills and conversation “maps” for navigating challenges and conflicts, inner and outer, in all aspects of life. John has been a certified trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2000. He was mentored by NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg for over a decade and has been a leader in the global NVC community. John coaches and mediates in a wide range of contexts, and is an author and speaker.

John is co-author of the books:









John’s roots in this work started with being deeply influenced and inspired by humanistic psychology pioneer Carl Rogers, as well as by Mahatma Gandhi and his work with "nonviolence" in social-political change. In 1998, John met the founder of the international work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Marshall Rosenberg, and went on to study closely with him for over a decade. In 2002, following a harrowing adventure together working with Afghan tribal elders in a refugee camp on the Pakistan border, John and close colleague Ike Lasater began co-developing a body of work and training program based in NVC that came to be called Mediate Your Life (MYL), which is offered in different parts of the U.S. and internationally.

The focus of the MYL work has been to help people respond to human conflict in all its forms, inner and outer, with the ability to navigate difficulties, challenges, and conflicts with skills of empathic communication infused with compassion, mindfulness, and collaboration. A central aspect of the training is a 3-chair model and mediation conversation "maps" for navigating different territories in the world of conflict. The mediation structure and maps provide a manual and guide to the human operating system for shifting from conflict to connection, and finding new, creative possibilities and solutions for the life and world we envision.

Starting in his years at university, the journey of a spiritual life and integrating this with a scientific understanding of the world has been a central core of John’s life. Deep passion for a practical integration and application of nondual mindful awareness, neuroscience, and the language of empathic communication continually evolves at the heart of John’s work.


John received his undergraduate degree from the University of San Francisco, where he studied psychology and philosophy (and played for USF’s nationally ranked soccer team). He went on to graduate training in clinical psychology at Penn State University. During his five years of doctoral study, he worked as a psychotherapist with individuals and groups, and as a research assistant at the Stress and Anxiety Disorders Institute. After graduate school, John helped launch and develop a small commercial business before discovering Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In 2000, he embraced full-time communication and conflict resolution work, and in 2002 co-founded the Bay Area NVC organization (BayNVC). In 2003, he began co-developing with colleague Ike Lasater the Mediate Your Life training program. John lives with his wife and children in the San Francisco Bay Area.