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“Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs.” - Marshall Rosenberg

MEDIATION PROCESSES

Two-party mediation
Dialogue is facilitated between two people to hear one another at a level of shared humanity and universal needs, and from this place are supported to make requests of self and other and reach mutually beneficial agreements. The process can be one session or multiple sessions over time. Each session is usually scheduled for 2 to 4 hours, but can be scheduled for a full day. The sessions can happen by phone/internet (e.g. Skype), as well as in person.

 

Pre-Mediation
Each person involved in the mediation is requested to have an individual session with John before the joint session(s). The purpose of these pre-mediation sessions is to prepare each individual for the mediation and support the process and outcome to be as successful as possible. The preparation involves: (1) getting connected to oneself in a way that is mentally and emotionally less reactive and more likely to be effective in producing a satisfying outcome, (2) explore one’s understanding of what might be motivating the other person involved to behave as they have, and (3) get a more specific picture of structure of the mediation process. It is also an opportunity for John to build rapport, trust and connection with each person involved and address any questions or concerns. These sessions often go for about 1 hour (but can be more or less time), and are usually done by phone or internet (e.g. Skype).

 

Post-Mediation
Once the mediation process has completed, John offers having a post-mediation follow up conversation with each person individually and/or together at some point in the future. The purpose of these sessions is to “harvest” and learn from what happened in the mediation session(s), and see how things are going with the solutions and agreements made at the end of the mediation. These sessions are usually done by phone or internet (e.g. Skype).

 

Group/team mediation
John facilitates this process with groups of more than two people. In group mediation, there is the option of doing what is called “accreted mediation,” in which various sub-configurations of the people involved meet separately with John for mediated conversations before getting everyone together as a whole group. This can help resolve a significant amount of tension between certain people who are experiencing particular conflict with each other, and contribute to more efficient and effective communication and resolution of issues as a whole group. Group mediation also can be done by phone/internet (e.g. Skype) as well as in person.

Some solutions literally may not be available before there is connection, and it may be why some conflicts seem “impossible” and “unsolvable.” Albert Einstein is credited with saying that problems cannot be solved from the same level of thinking that created them. It is through connection that a new kind of thinking and solutions can arise.
—John Kinyon

Nonviolent Communication is a simple yet powerful methodology for communicating in a way that meets both parties' needs.
—William Ury, co-author of Getting to Yes

I believe the principles and techniques in Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life can literally change the world, but more importantly, they can change the quality of your life with your spouse, your children, your neighbors, your co-workers and everyone else you interact with. I cannot recommend it highly enough.
—Jack Canfield, Chicken Soup for the Soul series

Marshall Rosenberg provides us with the most effective tools to foster health and relationships. Nonviolent Communication connects soul to soul, creating a lot of healing. It is the missing element in what we do."
—Deepak Chopra, author of The Seven Spiritual
Laws of Success

Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life is essential reading for anyone who wants to improve their communication skills.
—Marianne Williamson, author of Everyday Grace

Read more about the work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
Inquire about receiving NVC mediation support, email nvcmediation@johnkinyon.com, or call 510-222-5574