"Compassion is a necessity, not a luxury. Without it, humanity cannot survive." — The Dalai Lama
"Compassion is what is going to save our species." — James Doty, MD, founder of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE), Stanford University School of Medicine
John Kinyon provides compassionate communication training to the public and with communities, groups, and organizations. He also facilitates difficult conversations and conflict reconciliation.
Compassionate communication creates the quality of connection in which we are motivated to contribute to one another's well being out of natural kindness, natural giving from the heart. It is communicating in a way that we experience our interconnectedness and interdependence with each other and with life; and it is taking effective action to meet needs for ourselves and others, creatively and collaboratively. This work is based in the international work of Compassionate Communication (Nonviolent Communication, NVC), developed by Marshall Rosenberg.
Compassion is at the core of our humanity. A large and growing body of research shows that compassion is connected to positive outcomes and benefits such as happiness, joy, peace, creativity, collaboration, productivity, enhanced relationships and mental-emotional-physical well being, such as more optimal cognitive functioning, emotional resilience and empathy, lowered stress levels, and promotion of the immune system. These results are being found in education, business, healthcare, and more. Research in overlapping fields such as mindfulness meditation and emotional intelligence shows similar results. In essence, whenever you act with kindness and compassion toward yourself or others, you feel good and it generates a ripple of positive impact. [See Resources below for links to research and related information.]
John's compassionate communication training focuses on skills of empathy — empathic speaking and listening that integrates mindfulness, understanding, and a language of universal needs. The learning happens in the context of having conversations that matter — the important, crucial, and sometimes difficult and courageous conversations that move the individual, the group, the community forward into new possibilities. [See John's books for additional resources.]
Resources: For research on the benefits of compassion and related fields, click on: The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE), Self-Compassion, The Charter for Compassion, The Center for Mindfulness, Emotional Intelligence, Brene Brown. In the area of spirituality and compassion: The Dalai Lama, Eckhart Tolle, Pema Chodron, Thich Nhat Hanh, Depak Chopra. In the poetic tradition: David Whyte, Mary Oliver.
Within the adversities, challenges, and conflicts in our personal and work lives, there is an energy that can propel us to the next level of growth, fulfillment, and new possibilities. Creating the life and relationships we want, and contributing to the world we envision, happens one conversation at a time.
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." — The Dali Lama